Let’s talk about dildos.

There’s a particular mindset coach with a pretty rabid following—only on Facebook—who is known for being bold, brazen, and brash, especially when talking about certain…*lascivious* topics. Not that long ago, she lived up to her infamy on a livestream where she putting the EEEE in Extroversion, waving a dildo around while loudly, and PROUDLY, proclaiming its place in her manifesting practice. That one dildo in particular netted her thousands of dollars, apparently.

If you’ve followed me for even the shortest period of time, you already know how I feel about this sort of thing.

But hell if that wasn’t entertaining. 

Especially since I have known a few people (several of them being my clients) who have spoken to her personally and were even MORE shocked when getting her on phone. 

Not because she was moaning on the line or doing some kind of dildo-alchemy to magnetize money…but because of how soft-spoken she is. According to one client of mine, she seemed almost *shy*. 

To them, the disconnect was WAY more arresting than the dildo. 

Part of what I teach is what “tells” to look for when speaking to potential clients and customers—or even when reading their comments and posts online—to know what personality types you are dealing with. 

(This works especialy when someone is telling you they are one particular type… and yet their “tells” indicate otherwise.)

But what do you do when someone’s a totally different type than their online persona? I.e., when they present themselves one way online, but are entirely different when on the phone or in person?

This actually happens all the time.

Which leads me to my larger point: many people complain that personality typing, especially the MBTI, puts people into “boxes,” almost against their will. That, once they’re labeled one type, they’re that type forever and ever, and thus inherently unfair to the human experience. 

That, simply put, is hot garbage.

People change types all the times throughout their lifetimes: they may have been an Introvert as a child, but grew to become an Extrovert, or vice-versa. Same with Thinking, Feeling, and even Perceiving and Judging. 

Or, they embody traits of an entirely different type when they’re conducting their business. And, the moment they get on the phone, or turn off their laptop, they’re a different type. 

In other words, people change. And change often.

This is why knowing how to truly type people—and not just go by what they “say” they are—is incredibly important. Because we all wear different faces every day, as business owners, parents, partners, even friends. And by understanding these many faces and facets, you’ll VASTLY improve your relationships with your clients, family, and essentially everyone you communicate with. Why? Because you’ll know them for who they truly are—changing, dynamic people.

And, trust, it’s not hard—once you get the hang of it, the applications (and benefits) are endless.  

This is the kind of ish I cover in my membership site, Biz Typology.

Later today, I’ll be going on livesteam (sorry, no dildos—at least for the foreseeable future anyway) talking about the future of Biz Typology and how my goals can help make you profits. But for that information—and access to over 50 short-bite instructional videos in how to read these tells and what to do about them, plus a 100+ strong support Facebook group where surprise guests and  training and more goodies await—you have to be a member. 

To join—and secure access to all the above, for less than your Christmas movie fix on Netflix this month—go here:


Stefanie Arroyo